This love update may not be what you are expecting, but we have to talk about it. I think between me and this “good man,” we may want different things. I like him, and he likes me too, but we are not on the same page. Do we want the same thing?.

Well, we have been doing a lot of talking. Trust me, we are dating. This is more than friendship. At this stage, we would be deceiving ourselves that we haven’t started catching feelings.

How did we even get here in the first place? Do you know that we had a mini-breakup in March?. So apparently, we discussed the way forward on whatever we thought we had that month. Funnily, “Good Man’ told me he wouldn’t be able to cope in a long-distance relationship.

It was heartbreaking, but I have to move on. Surprisingly, we were only away from each other for a few weeks. We got back in early April and have been steadily talking ever since. We always talk, throw banter at each other, and just enjoy each other’s company so that the distance isn’t much of a bother.

So are we on the same page, or do we want different things? We have had some conversations on some personal things, and we may not be on the same page. I wouldn’t want to raise the discussions now. I would want to talk about it; however, for now, I would just keep quiet and have the conversation much later.

Is this even love? Or is having steady conversations just making feelings run wild?. Well, time will tell.

Hmmm. This love update is giving a mix of catching feelings and a tiny dose of confusion. How can two people who have never seen each other physically, yet have kept in touch for nine years, be this intertwined?. Time will tell.

Hey fam! It’s been a minute. Have you missed me?. I come bearing good news. I think I met a good man, and maybe my love life isn’t a roller coaster anymore. But before we continue, promise me that whatever you read here stays here😜

They say finding love in your 30s is a sport on its own. I couldn’t agree less, because at that age, all you see are red flags. (LOL).

So the last time we were here, I told y’all about my love life being a roller coaster. Sometimes I wonder if there is still any romantic bone in this size 6 body. I just work, eat, sleep, socialize once in a while, and pay bills. This adulthood thing is not for the faint-hearted.

Why am I beating around the bush? I’m supposed to give a love update, right? Ok, let’s talk about this man.

So I have known this man for a long time, a very long time. It will be a decade next year. Yeah, that long. However, we were never this close. He has always been this cool person who always checked up on me, but I never read anything into it. I still do not read much into it. Let’s not be faster than our shadow. However, I have seen a lot of consistency in his character.

Over the years, he has always been that friend who calls to know how I’m doing. He just makes it his duty to ask about my general welfare. However, we kind of became close towards the end of last year. Don’t ask me about the situation that led to the sudden turn of events (Aproko).

So we became close, have been talking steadily, and, to be honest, I have come to see how good this man is. If you are reading this post and enjoying navigating through the different articles, then you should join me in appreciating this man (web developer extraordinaire) who took his time to make this site what it is now

This man is my blessing, and I can’t thank him enough for just being a godsend. For the first time in a long while, I get to sit back and watch another human show me kindness. I love it here.

Please don’t ask me if we are dating or in a relationship. We are in a friendship. Is this friendship leading to something else? I don’t have an answer to that question. I just want to enjoy this moment.

Yo guys! I met a good man.

My love life is a movie. Sometimes it’s a romantic sit-com, other times it’s drama. Welcome to my diary session. Promise me that whatever you read here, stays here.

I’m a single Nigerian woman who used to love love. Well, people say I’m a soft girl, but truthfully, I think my lover girl era ended some years back.

Don’t get me wrong, I love a good love story. I even think love is a beautiful thing. However, I think romantic love is just overrated. Why do people pursue and do anything to get loved, and sometimes lose it in the end.

As I said, I used to love love. But now the grown woman in me appreciates platonic friendships. I see a romantic relationship as something I cannot control. I just focus on God, my family, personal growth and while I wait for the good man to come.

Does this mean that I’m actually taking the back seat in my own love story? Well, I wouldn’t know, cause truthfully, my tired is tired(Laughs in ijaw).

Maybe I feel like this because I have been out of a relationship for some time now, and am preoccupied with so many activities. I may just meet a sweet man soon, and this narrative would change.’

Trust me, I look forward to falling in love again and having a fun love life. The midnight calls, the hugs, the acts of service. Hmmm, the teddy bear hugs… The list goes on(Somebody wake me up)

But now, I have a hair business to run, a website to grow, a spiritual life that I desire to build and an online community (you, of course) to nurture.

May chaotic love experiences not make us think love is not for us(laughs). Love is for me. I’m beautiful, I’m the best thing to happen to my lover, and I will wait for that good man.