Dear Big Sis
“I only meet stingy men, and honestly, I don’t know what else to do.
I don’t know if I have a problem, but it seems I’m attracting the wrong men. Why is it that these men don’t want to spend on me?
Do I have to ask and beg for financial assistance before these men come through for me?
Nigerian men are just stingy. They deserve these Gen-Z babies with no mercy, because I don’t know why I will be dating you, and you cannot give me shishi
Maybe I give the big girl vibes, or this masculine energy that I can solve all my problems financially, which is why they are not assisting.
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The worst part is that these same men who don’t want to spend want to borrow from me. Able-bodied men, oh. You cannot give, but you want to take.
Is this a spiritual problem, because why are all these men the same? Shey make I go wash my head?
Am I overthinking things? Big Sis, please advise me”.
BIG SIS:
“Well, your case is not peculiar to just you. Men are also looking for soft landings and independent women, to either split the bills, or even carry 100% of the bills.
Don’t beat yourself too much. You are a strong independent woman who is financially independent.
Just as there are men who would want to leech off you, there are also men who want to help you grow.
You just have to take a deep breath and wait for this, your God sent man.
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Also, be honest with yourself. Will you be comfortable fending for a man or assisting with the bills?
All men are naturally egoistic. A man is a provider by nature. So let this man provide.
Also, remember that love cannot be bought with money. Assisting a man doesn’t mean you have gotten his heart 100%.
After all said and done, its left to you to decide what you want. I trust you will make the right choice”.
